Tuesday 27 November 2012

How to Reach climax (orgasm) ?

Vaginal intercourse make feel extraordinary physical closeness, the emotional intimacy, and for many, the belief that intercourse epitomizes sex. But for women's orgasms, the old in-out is also problematic. The best evidence suggests that only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse no matter how vigorous or prolonged it is, no matter how loving the relationship, no matter what position the lovers use, and no matter what the size of the man's penis.
The reason? During intercourse (missionary, doggy, woman-on-top, whatever), the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris, the organ responsible for women's orgasms. Sexuality experts reassure couples that the woman's inability to experience orgasm during intercourse is (1) very common, (2) no reflection on her sexual responsiveness, (3) no reflection on the man's sexual technique, (4) no reflection the woman's feelings about the relationship. Sexuality authorities also encourage couples to let go of the idea that women "should" have orgasms during intercourse. They encourage men to help women to orgasm using their fingers, hand, tongue, or a vibrator or other sex toys. But many couple wish the woman could come during intercourse. The good news is that there are easy, loving ways to boost women's chance of orgasm during intercourse. The easiest ways involve the woman-on-top and rear entry (doggie) positions. Orgasm is more challenging in the man-on-top (missionary) position, but a minor adjustment makes it considerably more likely. Woman-on-Top. The woman kneels over the man's hips. The man makes a fist and places it at the junction of the lovers' pelvises. The woman leans forward, presses her clitoris against the fist and moves in any way that erotically excites her. Or the woman or man presses a vibrator into her clitoris. Rear entry. The woman stands and bends at the waist or kneels on all fours and the man stands or kneels behind her. The man or woman can reach the woman's clitoris and gently caress it, or either the man or woman can press a vibrator against her clitoris. Man-on-Top. In this position, the woman's orgasm is least likely, but the "coital alignment technique" (CAT) helps. The CAT was first suggested in 1988 by sex researcher Edward Eichel. Instead of the man lying on top of the woman chest-to-chest with his penis moving more or less horizontally, the man shifts so that his chest is closer to one of the woman's shoulders. As a result, his penis moves in a more up-and-down direction. The man rides higher on the woman's pelvis, and the bone at the base of his penis (pelvic bone) makes more contact with the clitoris. This increases direct clitoral stimulation and may provide enough to trigger the woman's orgasm. Back in the late ‘80s, the CAT made headlines, but it proved to be just a blip on America's sexual radar. By the 1990's, it was largely forgotten. But quietly, research has continued, and most results affirm the CAT's benefit. In one study, researchers worked with 36 women who could not have orgasms in the missionary position. Half the women were encouraged to masturbate to become more comfortable with their genitals and their sexual responsiveness, a standard approach in sex therapy. The others were taught the CAT. Based on diaries kept during the 21-day period after this training, the masturbation group reported a 27 percent increase in orgasms during missionary-position intercourse, while the CAT group reported twice the increase, 56 percent. Now, many women say their best orgasms happen courtesy of the man's tongue or hand or a vibrator. But for women desiring orgasms during intercourse, these simple variations just might allow a woman to enjoy a new erotic pleasure. Happy experimentation. Please comment on your results.

Monday 26 November 2012

Have Sex in the Butterfly Position

Have Sex in the Butterfly Position Are you interest for ultimate sexual position?.Look no further. This is the silver bullet, the one that is damn near guaranteed to get the woman off every time. Why is this position so good? It is all a matter of angles. Because of the angle of the male's penis and the woman's body, the male is able to stimulate the woman's g-spot very well with his penis during sex. It does not take too much of this stimulation to get the woman leaving finger nail marks down the males arms. Why is it called the butterfly position? Who knows, your body probably looks like a butterfly in some weird convoluted fashion. All that matters is that it works and it is probably something you've never tried before.
How do you do it This is not exactly the easiest position in the world to perform. It is not the most difficult that there is, but it is definitely up there. The position is done by having the woman lie on her back. Her hips and back are then elevated by the males arms as he lifts her vagina so that it lines up with his penis. It is good to have about a foot distance between the male's penis and the platform the woman is lying on. This can be found on a bed for example. The male stands off the bed while he lifts the woman lying on it up to his height. When the woman is at the right height, just her upper back and head should be resting on the bed still. The male then slides into her and thrusts. Because of the angles involved, it is unlikely that the male will manage to get very deep at all. This is a good thing, the result is that his thrusting power is aimed directly at the G-Spot. What does he do? It is the male's job to do most of the work in this position. Begin by lifting your partner off the bed or whatever surface is being used. Grab her by the hips or under her buttocks in order to do this better. Position her vagina so that it is about the same height as your penis. Place the penis at the outside of the vagina and then slowly begin thrusting forward. This will cause the penis to push against the top wall of the vagina, thus stimulating the G-Spot. The male may also wish to vary his thrusting pattern and depth in this position. The man may want to start by doing 3-4 shallow thrusts followed by one deep full thrust and work his way towards many deep thrusts followed by 1-2 shallow ones. What does she do? There isn't much for the woman to actually do while in this position. The main thing she should do is to pay attention to where her legs and feet are. A very common place for them while in this position is on top of the male's shoulders or just coming off the male's mid-section. Try to support your own body in whatever way possible in order to take some of the stress off your partner.

Saturday 17 November 2012

Have Sex Standing up Position

Have Sex Standing Up Vaginal 1. The man and woman stand and the woman bends over in front of the man. This is very similar to doggy style and is by far the easiest way to have sex standing up if both the man and woman are about the same height.
2. If the woman is shorter than the man or the couple wants to make it a bit more challenging, then the man should stand while the woman wraps her legs around him. This is a more difficult because the man has to hold the woman's weight and has nothing to push against. 3. The woman straddles the man but in this case the man pushes the woman against the wall. This helps him support her weight and also gives him something to push against. 4. If the two are of similar heights or the woman is taller, then when standing face to face, the man can simply enter with both people standing normally. This can also be accomplished with shorter women by having them wear high heels and/or platform shoes during intercourse

Friday 16 November 2012

how to do sex with menopause women

How to go sex with menopause women?: Couples going through menopause often have unique struggles when coping with the new changes and challenges it brings to them both as individuals, and as partners. It is an inner battle – mentally and physically – for not just women, but men as well. For women, it may be hard to get a male partner to understand and be able to empathize with her challenges. But both sexes go through a form of menopause, and this transition is disruptive and even scary, and a certain level of understanding and communication is required for any one to have a quality relationship at this stage of life. Nancy Cetel talks about many of the changes couples experience in her book Double Menopause, and what often happens is that emotions, including past hurts, hopes, dreams, etc., that may have been buried or unexpressed in the past, can no longer hidden. It can’t be helped – the truth will not be held back any longer. For some women, that shows up in pent up aggression that is taken out on a male partner by pushing him away and/or making him unable to relate to you on a physical level. Men need to know that the loss of desire for sex may be caused from the hormonal changes, but there might also be an emotional element that needs to be dealt with. It is advisable that men in menopause couples acquaint themselves with the effects of menopause, in themselves and their partners, in order to better understand the changes their relationship is going through. Men soon realize that hormonal imbalances are causing unwanted emotional symptoms in women that could lead to verbal spats every now and then. Men need to be aware that emotional changes are likely to occur and that they are not to blame for them but that their partner may require extra attention, love and outward expressions of caring more now than ever before. Men need to understand that their sexual drives could also have changed as they experience a slower loss of testosterone. To keep sexual interest, partners may need to put more time and attention into the quality of their sex lives and ‘update’ themselves on what things turn them on at this stag of the game. Men need to know that a decrease in estrogen in their lover’s bodies – can significantly alter how she thinks and feels about sex. In addition, vaginal discomfort and thinning of the lining of the vagina can make sex painful so it will not be enjoyable for either of them until they find a solution for this. More than ever this is a critical time for couples to communicate more about the changes they are both experiencing. Christian Northrup talks about ‘reversing roles’ as couples go through this transition in her book the Wisdom of Menopause. Men often lose a lot of the aggression that once fueled their younger years and they are happier to stay home and engage in more nurturing activities, that they never paid attention to before, such as cooking. Women, on the other hand, may want to venture out into the world and pursue a long-thought about career. They become more aggressive and passionate about accomplishing things. In this way, the couple almost switch roles in the relationship. Talking a lot, expressing ideas, and bonding with one another again becomes critical during this transition. Men need to know what is happening to their women on a day-to-day basis, and visa versa. Women want men to cheer them on as they undergo significant changes including dealing with physical discomfort, hormonal imbalances, and possibly venturing out into the career world for the first time! Men need to know that sex isn’t going away totally. Explore sexual alternatives and realize that having less sex is not the end of the world! Experiment with vibrators, and oral sex, if you haven’t already as these are fine alternatives and to maintain a healthy sex life. Women love toys as much as guys do. Menopause might mean taking more time for foreplay for some women. Get into a habit of communicating your needs to each other and learn to enjoy the changes instead of fighting against them. The most important thing is that husbands provide a social network for their menopausal wives to rely on. Realize that menopause is only a phase, albeit the end of the old and the beginning of a new one, and it’s possible to adjust to the changes by remaining aware. By staying informed of each other’s thoughts and feelings and becoming tolerant and understanding to the emotional pains women can go through, menopause couples can overcome most difficulties.

Tuesday 13 November 2012

How to penetrate penis into vagina

Step 1 If I know anything about vaginas, it’s that they are attached to women. This means in order to get to a vagina, you’ve got to get to a woman first. I’ve heard finding a woman is tough. I think finding them is the easy part, it’s getting them to take their pants off that’s tricky. You have to hit the hot spots: women’s clothing stores, maternity wards, and women's bathrooms. I prefer women’s bathrooms because half of the time they’re pants are down already. Step 2 This has got to be the most difficult step. You actually have to pay attention to the hole on the other side of the body. This hole could be as good as the vagina, except it talks. The day the vagina starts talking is a dark day indeed. So let’s get back to that face hole. When approaching a woman, use a compliment sandwich. “Hi. You have nice hair, I want to penetrate your vagina, and your shoes are cool.” Step 3 By this time her pants should be around her ankles. Make sure you’re still not in the bathroom. You may think it’s a good idea, but you’ll end up in a bad pop song. To avoid this, carry her to the nearest bed. The only exception to this rule is your parent’s bed. The only exception to THAT rule is if they happen to be feeling frisky. From there, you’re on your own, tiger. Step 4 Let’s recap. You have your woman laid out on a bed, pants around the ankles, and you’re about to part the red sea. The best way to get her to spread is to say “spread your legs.” They usually will. If that doesn’t work, wing it. I’ve heard saying “please” and “I make a lot of money” has worked for others. Step 5 Once you’ve got her legs spread, begin to reach for her undergarments, but suddenly pull out a rose. You should always carry a rose with you, that way you can be “spontaneously” romantic. The woman will be so taken in by your sudden splash of romance, that she will yell “please take off my underwear!” You’re all clear to remove the penis shield, cowboy. Step 6 At this point you should be staring at your vagina head on. You may want to take your penis and insert it now, but you must prepare yourself before any of that. First off, make sure your penis is erect. To test this, look at a photo of a flaccid penis and compare the two. If yours has significantly more veins showing, you’re golden. If not, you may want to reconsider your sexuality. You cannot penetrate a vagina with a limp penis, I’ve tried and it’s nearly impossible. Take out your condom now and remove it from its package. If you have forgotten your condom, be aware that you may transform into an antropomorphic pig. Put the condom on so that it’s covering the entire penis. Simply placing it on top of your penis will not do, sorry. The condom will provide you protection from the rough jagged inner walls of the vagina. Step 7 Do not, I repeat, DO NOT try warming up the vagina by shoving a hair curler up it. The woman may not like that and shut off access to her vagina, and then it’s back to step one. The proper way to warm up a vagina is metaphorically. This means preparing her for the actual penetration by stretching it. Use a giant vibrator to wear her out so she won’t even feel how small your penis is. I’ll trust you have a giant vibrator with you. Step 8 This is what you have been waiting for, isn’t it? She’s on a bed, pants off, legs spread, underwear gone, condom on, parents possibly involved, this is it. Take your penis, and line it right up with her vagina. Don’t aim too low or you’ll have a whole new set of problems to deal with. Once you’re lined up, move forward until it is completely inside. Congratulations! You have penetrated the vagina! Step 9 Quickly pull out your penis and run in the opposite direction as fast as you can. If there is a wall, improvise. Run all the way home and give your wife a high five!

How to take off clothes during the sex

:How to take off clothes during the sex Go with touches, and kisses spend most of the time First, take off her normal clothes, but leave her underwear and bra on, and start having a bit of sex-touch, squeeze, kiss. Then, while you guys are kising, slowly move your hands behing her back and find the bra strap. Slowly, unhook her bra. Let the bra just dangle on her while you are having sex. Then, find one strap of her bra, and pull it over so that you are taking it off of one boob. As you do that, kiss her boob, and lick it. Play with it. Then, do the same thing on her other boob. There, now you have her boobs. Do what you feel like and what she likes. If you can, kneel down a little bit, and put her boobs on your shoulders, and start playing with them there, and with her. let her play with you too. You should be naked, so she can play with your penis and butt. Now, time for the underwear. Lift her up, so that she is holding onto you, with her legs wrapped around you. Your arms should be by her vangina. Take her underwear, and slowly pull them off of her. Then, as soon as you have done that, stick your penis in her vagina, and start thrusting. It might work better if you are lying ontop of her, and her legs are up on your shoulders. There you have it-sex.

Sunday 11 November 2012

why the foreplay is importance in sex

Why the foreplay importance in sex
1.Asking for sex is not foreplay nor is it sexy. It is a turn off and makes the experience into a duty or a chore. Don't ask, just initiate the experience. 2.Immediately stripping your own clothes off and climbing in to bed is not foreplay nor does it build desire or anticipation in most women. This can be rectified by doing it strip tease style and being in very good physical condition. If your mate is very visual then just ripping your own clothes off may be welcome and exciting. Figure out what your partner likes. 3.Going straight for the girly bits is not foreplay. Start with the neck instead. 4.A massage could be considered PRE-foreplay. I think that you have to be careful with this one. It works well for some. For me, it makes me sleepy and not the least bit turned on. If you are going to massage make sure you follow up with some exciting foreplay to build desire. If you are using massage or gentle touch as foreplay and your spouse is a "dead fish" then that is a clue that massage is NOT foreplay for her. 5.Laughter is actually a GOOD thing. I think often times we try to create a lovemaking experience and so we try to go all soft and sweet and tender. Laughter can be a great prelude to passion. 6.Pounce! I can't be the only one who enjoys being pounced on and gently mauled/nibbled/kissed on the neck and ears. 7.Toss her around on the bed. Roll her around, bounce the bed, get things moving. 8.Sandwich her between you and the wall. So, so sexy. Lots of things you can do with this. 9.If she is reading or on the computer in bed try this line, "You have 2 seconds to put that away so it won't get damaged when I ravage you." Say it with a ****y smile and confidence. Fun and hot. Start towards her so she knows you are serious...If she tests you do not be afraid to toss the book aside or move the computer for her. Then, you better ravage her!

Prepare to sex with foreplay

prepare to sex with foreplay:
Knowing properly how to prepare for sex will lead to a more enjoyable experience for both you and your partner. The act of lovemaking should be a rewarding, enjoyable and—hopefully—memorable experience. Preparing yourself the right way by following a few simple tips will make sure that you both leave the bedroom happy. Hygiene. During sex, your body is going to be completely and entirely exposed to your partner … she may perhaps have her mouth on every square inch of you. In light of this, so that you don’t completely turn her off, make sure you enter the bedroom clean, smelling good, and fully scrubbed. There’s not much more of turn off for her than venturing into your nether regions only to be repulsed by foul smell. To prepare for sex—if you want her to do all the things you want her to do—make sure your hygiene is perfect. You owe it to her. Stamina. In preparing for sex, it is important to keep in mind how well you will perform, and in large part that means how long and hard you can go. Women like a man who can take care of them for extended periods. This preparation point is not something you can do on the day of your rendezvous, but something that needs to be an ongoing part of your daily routines. Keeping yourself in good cardiovascular shape is a great way to prepare for sex … and to ensure you’ll keep your partner coming back for more. Visualize what you’re going to do. Creativity is an important part of being a successful sex partner—simply rolling on top of your girlfriend, pounding away for a few minutes and then going to sleep is not going to cut it. You want to differentiate yourself from other guys by being creative and inventive. This is something that you can just ad lib, of course, but it helps when you prepare for sex to think about all the different ways you want to please your partner. You can even plan a little agenda out ahead of time, knowing just what you want to do when and for how long. This will help ensure you keep it new, fresh, and exciting. Environment. Setting a comfortable environment is key to preparing for sex and ensuring a satisfying experience. Ambiance is very important for the proper sexual mood and it’s up to you to make sure the lighting, temperature, bedding, and even music (Barry white is a popular choice) are going to keep her in the mood. Trying to get busy in the back of a car, a frigid bedroom, or a smelly dorm is not going to be met with agreeability from your partner. Post-coitus planning. Guys are infamous for becoming disinterested immediately after finishing the act, but one way to ensure that she won’t be back for more is to become a jerk as soon as you’ve gotten your rocks off. Recognizing this may happen, plan for what you can do as soon as you’re done with the act—maybe keep a book of poetry bedside that you two can read together, have her favorite ice cream in the freezer, or have a few topics of conversation ready. Plan ahead so you don’t just roll over and fall asleep!

sexual desire

Sexual desire Sexual desire is a motivational state and an interest in “sexual objects or activities, or as a wish, need, or drive to seek out sexual objects or to engage in sexual activities”.[1] Sexual desire has been referred to by many different names such as libido, sexual drive, sexual motivation, sexual interest, lust, and sexual appetite.[2] Even if it can be labelled with a variety of terms, there is no doubt that sexual desire may be the “single most common sexual event in the lives of men and women”.[1] Sexual desire is a subjective feeling state that can “be triggered by both internal and external cues, and that may or may not result in overt sexual behaviour”.[3] Sexual desire can be aroused through imagination and sexual fantasies, or even through perceiving an individual you find attractive.[4] Sexual desire can be spontaneous or responsive.[5] Sexual desire is dynamic, can either be positive or negative, and can vary in intensity depending on the desired object/person. The sexual desire spectrum is described by Stephen B. Levine as: aversion --> disinclination --> indifference --> interest --> need --> passion.[6]
The production and use of sexual fantasy and thought is an important part of properly functioning sexual desire. Some physical manifestations of sexual desire in humans are; licking, sucking, puckering, and touching the lips, as well as tongue protrusion.[